Is it a very female thing to think that someone loving you will somehow resolve many of the evils of yourself, that being lost can be solved by love, that love is being found? Do men feel this way? Do you? Do men seek women that are messes? Do they hope to clean them up? Does anyone want the uncertain? Confidence is sexy, but what is confusion? Is it unsexy? Are the best loves the sexy ones? Is it totally wrong of me to assume that love will lift some of this paralyses? If I keep trying on my own is there any harm in imagining that love will make it more possible? When love doesn’t come. The harm is when love doesn’t come.