I think monogamy is something everyone should try for a short time. I think it teaches you about desire and commitment and how to put someone else before yourself, but I don’t believe it works in the long run. I don’t believe anyone can promise everlasting fidelity alongside pledging to take their best care of themselves. I don’t believe in marriage, because I believe in the finality of things and when all the pain comes rushing in or creeping in it seems having to then face the legality of your brokenness is unnecessary. I don’t believe in lifetime commitments. I believe in until either of us has stopped growing, giving, and delighting in the other commitments. I believe in expectations of responsibility and honesty, because if you can trust someone to respect the whole of you, all the pain of knowing them and letting them know you is certainly worth it.